You can't love and humiliate. How to deal with uncomfortable emotions

To love is not to humiliate - how to put a comma in the right place, facing strong emotions and another attack of the inner critic? If you feel ashamed, you can shame yourself, if you feel guilty, take it all upon yourself without trial or investigation, if you are scared, scare yourself even more, and if anger arises, it is important to hold it back and redirect it towards yourself. Reproaches, nitpicking, uncertainty, doubts, and anxiety are faithful and eternal companions of self-attack. In the book "To Love is Not to Humiliate," gestalt therapist Anna Ivanyutenko explores the phenomenon of such a way of interacting with oneself, discovers its roots in childhood and consequences in adulthood, and suggests not to give up on the inner critic, but to make peace with it, replacing self-aggression with a more compassionate attitude towards oneself. In the book, you will find not only detailed descriptions of the mentioned phenomena and real-life examples-illustrations, but also over sixty psychological exercises-practices aimed at transforming the inner critic into an ally, and aggression into creative energy.