In captivity of someone else"s fate. Practice of systemic constrictions

In our behavior there are samples that have penetrated into us in some unknown ways, and, perhaps, inexplicable. And when we cannot find why we act like this and not otherwise, the reasons are most likely buried in family secrets.
Krishnananda "beyond the limits of fear"

fate. What it is? We accept our fate or fight with her, resist her or thank her, renounce our fate or humble it with her. But what to do to those who fall into a trap of someone else"s fate?
I feel sorry for such people, they float along the winding paths of their ancestors. But most of all I am touched by the unthinkable stories of the innocent, who were captured by someone else"s fate, who fell into a trap of family weaves or became a shelter for restless entities. And it doesn’t matter how they got into this whirlpool: abandoning their purpose or moving by gusts of blind love or the need to be involved in their family system.
These people, standing in their place, do not feel themselves, do not understand who they are. They either, forgetting themselves, live someone else"s life, repeat the fate of their relatives, or drown in the abyss of alien passions, events, weaves.
I do not know the best way than a system arrangement, where a person gets a chance to see for person to whose fate he repeats, to realize this and become free from this obsession. How this happens, as well as examples of repetition of other people"s destinies are described in stories in this book.
Nadezhda Markova