Education of children after a divorce. What to do if the ex -spouse is trying to set up a child against you

As a result of the divorce, the child often turns out to be drawn into a conflict of loyalty - when parents consciously or unconsciously force him to “choose” between them. Even worse - if one of the former spouses deliberately tries to set up a child against the second parent. “Mom took me to a psychologist and told me to say that I no longer want to see you.” “Dad says you spend alimony on yourself, and he is now exhausted to earn more money.” “Mom really loves me - and therefore will never start a new family.” Such statements by a child are able to unsettle anyone. Moreover, if he dares you under the influence of the second parent, deceives, or even stops obeying. From the book of psychotherapists, Amy J.L. Baker and Paul R. Faine, you will learn how not to follow the emotions and correctly respond to the current situation - with respect to both your feelings and children"s experiences. You will understand how the behavior and words of the second parent affect the child, and get the effective tools necessary to strengthen communication with your son or daughter. Your child needs you, even if he does not always realize this