Created for love. How knowledge about the brain and the style of attachment will help to avoid conflicts and better than ponies
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About the book
A book that will teach you to better understand its partner and turn relationships into a source of joy. From the famous expert on the relationship of the psychotherapist Stan Tatkin.
entering into a romantic relationship, we hope that happiness will come by itself. However, it often turns out that we know very little about the person with whom we created a couple. We can’t imagine how he works, what he thinks, how love expresses, what habits, needs he has, how he behaves in conflict situations and why.
Relations begin to hurt. What to do? Firstly, to realize that relations are more important than the needs of each partner. And secondly, learn to understand each other.
Stan Tatkin synthesized knowledge from different areas, creating a psychobiological approach to steam therapy. The first region is neuronauk (the basics of brain function), the second is the theory of affection (biological need to establish connections with other people) and the third is the biology of human excitement (we are not talking about sexual excitement, but about the regulation of emotions).
After reading the book, you will learn:
- How to create a pair space in which each partner will feel safe,
- how to balance the advantages and disadvantages of each other,
- How to become the main people for each other,
- How to revive love through eye contact,
- How to quarrel and prevent conflicts,
- What rituals will help not to lose contact,
- How to preserve sexual attraction to each other.
We are not taught to build relationships, because there is an opinion that everything should work out by itself. The book of Stan Tatkin will make up the gaps and become a roadmap that will help to better understand the partner and himself.
From the author
Relations is difficult. But we often enter them, having a minimum of help and support. No, I do not suggest that you use standard schemes of 1-2-3 steps in relations with partners. There is no and cannot be any instructions that bring the process to automatism. We are not robots. What is suitable for one pair is not at all good for the other. But in any case, you will not achieve a lot, if you, like many, act blindly and wait for the relationship to develop by themselves.
Therefore, we need reasonable recommendations that will help you build a reliable relationship.
I am convinced that the best understanding of how the brain functions - in other words, how we are arranged - will make a conscious choice in relationships. Scientific data indicate that from a biological point of view, people are programmed not so much for love and harmony as to fight and achieve warlike goals. This is bad news. But there is also good: recent studies show that we are able to eliminate this predisposition using certain strategies and methods. We can take special measures to tune in primarily for love. These strategies will help create stable, harmonious relationships in which we will aim at an effective resolution of the conflict (in case of its occurrence).
Book chips
In simple words, the foundations of the theory of attachment and neurobiology are explained in simple words
In each chapter - exercises that will help to consolidate the principles described by the author in practice
Examples from practice and interesting metaphors
The book is capacious and compact: the author fit in 200 pages of useful information about relations.
rituals that will help you stay tuned to each other
good quarrel rules
For whom the book
For partners who are at the beginning of the relationship
For partners who are going through a difficult period right now
For spouses who want to improve relations
For those who are going to enter into a relationship and want to better understand their nature
About the author
Stan Tatkin - Doctor of Psychological Sciences, assistant professor of a clinical professor of family medicine department of the University of California at Los Angeles. The creator of the psychobiological approach in pair therapy (Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy, Pact) Co -author of the book Love and War in Intimate Relationships ("Love and enmity in intimate relationships")
A book that will teach you to better understand its partner and turn relationships into a source of joy. From the famous expert on the relationship of the psychotherapist Stan Tatkin.
entering into a romantic relationship, we hope that happiness will come by itself. However, it often turns out that we know very little about the person with whom we created a couple. We can’t imagine how he works, what he thinks, how love expresses, what habits, needs he has, how he behaves in conflict situations and why.
Relations begin to hurt. What to do? Firstly, to realize that relations are more important than the needs of each partner. And secondly, learn to understand each other.
Stan Tatkin synthesized knowledge from different areas, creating a psychobiological approach to steam therapy. The first region is neuronauk (the basics of brain function), the second is the theory of affection (biological need to establish connections with other people) and the third is the biology of human excitement (we are not talking about sexual excitement, but about the regulation of emotions).
After reading the book, you will learn:
- How to create a pair space in which each partner will feel safe,
- how to balance the advantages and disadvantages of each other,
- How to become the main people for each other,
- How to revive love through eye contact,
- How to quarrel and prevent conflicts,
- What rituals will help not to lose contact,
- How to preserve sexual attraction to each other.
We are not taught to build relationships, because there is an opinion that everything should work out by itself. The book of Stan Tatkin will make up the gaps and become a roadmap that will help to better understand the partner and himself.
From the author
Relations is difficult. But we often enter them, having a minimum of help and support. No, I do not suggest that you use standard schemes of 1-2-3 steps in relations with partners. There is no and cannot be any instructions that bring the process to automatism. We are not robots. What is suitable for one pair is not at all good for the other. But in any case, you will not achieve a lot, if you, like many, act blindly and wait for the relationship to develop by themselves.
Therefore, we need reasonable recommendations that will help you build a reliable relationship.
I am convinced that the best understanding of how the brain functions - in other words, how we are arranged - will make a conscious choice in relationships. Scientific data indicate that from a biological point of view, people are programmed not so much for love and harmony as to fight and achieve warlike goals. This is bad news. But there is also good: recent studies show that we are able to eliminate this predisposition using certain strategies and methods. We can take special measures to tune in primarily for love. These strategies will help create stable, harmonious relationships in which we will aim at an effective resolution of the conflict (in case of its occurrence).
Book chips
In simple words, the foundations of the theory of attachment and neurobiology are explained in simple words
In each chapter - exercises that will help to consolidate the principles described by the author in practice
Examples from practice and interesting metaphors
The book is capacious and compact: the author fit in 200 pages of useful information about relations.
rituals that will help you stay tuned to each other
good quarrel rules
For whom the book
For partners who are at the beginning of the relationship
For partners who are going through a difficult period right now
For spouses who want to improve relations
For those who are going to enter into a relationship and want to better understand their nature
About the author
Stan Tatkin - Doctor of Psychological Sciences, assistant professor of a clinical professor of family medicine department of the University of California at Los Angeles. The creator of the psychobiological approach in pair therapy (Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy, Pact) Co -author of the book Love and War in Intimate Relationships ("Love and enmity in intimate relationships")
Author:
Author:Stan Tatkin
Cover:
Cover:Soft
Category:
- Category:Politics & Social Science
- Category:Psychology
- Category:Reference books
Publication language:
Publication Language:Russian
Paper:
Paper:Offset
Age restrictions:
Age restrictions:18+
ISBN:
ISBN:978-5-00169-359-8
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