Let go of good. How to get rid of the Complex of "Good Man" and find your true "I"
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"Almost every person from childhood is taught to be good and to do correctly, not to the detriment of others. Thanks to this, society becomes a comfortable environment.
However, if you look around, we will see enough people who, identifying themselves with virtue, fall into a trap of painful guilt, forcing them to make decisions to the detriment of their interests and prosperity. The main problem is that when the thoughts and behavior of a person are associated exclusively with the care of others, this leads to the disappearance of his ability to recognize the true intentions, feelings and motives of behavior - his own and others. Such a person is easier to deceive, use, manipulate them and abuse his trust. An attempt to become the embodiment of virtue strongly interferes with waking up and see what is really happening.
Good people are often bargaining with their sense of peace, believing that if they simply do something in the outside world, under the guidance of guilt, then they will subsequently find peace. But guilt only wants us to do what she says, she wants to appropriate us, make us her captives and manage our choice. You can find peace only if you give yourself time to listen to what is happening inside us. The purpose of the book is to support you on this path. "
Andrea Matthew
The first part of the book is devoted to how our need to be a good person is formed. You will learn how a family way can encourage a child to identify himself with virtue, as well as what feelings, emotions and behavior reinforce this identification. In the second part, beliefs transmitted from generation to generation and considered unshakable truths (debt above all, self -denial is the highest form of love and so on), although they can be erroneous depending on the situation. From the third part you will learn about how to bring the awakening of the true “I”, following their emotions, which they used to prefer to ignore or deny. The fourth part talks about the use of personal forces: intuition, insight and desire - to know oneself and the surrounding world. For centuries it has been believed that knowledge should come through teachers, parents, religious figures and other authoritative figures.
However, the forces directing you from the inside are able to provide powerful support in motion in the right direction, to the true I. It is contact with these forces and the decision to start living under their leadership that helps to get rid of the false self -identification of a “good person”. The fifth of the book will help to find a realistic view of what can be expected from the healing process. Having learned to distinguish lies from the truth, one can make this truth an integral part of your nature, thereby revealing the path to gaining forces inherent in the genuine “I”. And then you will gain inner peace, establish healthy boundaries in relations with others and will be guided in your actions with your own moral choice and is kind to people not out of guilt, but sincerely.
Why is the book it is worth reading
The purpose of the book “Let the Good” is to teach you to go beyond the framework of the limiting black and white ideas about the good and bad, which usually imply condemnation and search for guilty. You will begin to enjoy good deeds, instead of deaf irritation due to the fact that everyone goes to you.
For whom this book
“I have to do this, otherwise I will get out of guilt!”, “I broke and expressed everything, but then I felt so guilty that I took my words back”, “I was terribly tired, but they need me” . Sounds familiar? If you are so used to being a “good person” for everyone around that you almost do not realize your own needs, do not hear your true thoughts and desires, it"s time to stop. This book will support you on the way to gain the strength of your “I” - a complex and multifaceted, not exhausted to be a “good son”, “good friend” or “good wife”.
Why did you decide to publish
“let go of good - a book on an important topic that is not customary to discuss. And you need to be a brave person in order to say as the author: to be sincere is more important than it seems good and generous, to be honest with yourself and others more important than it seems noble and merciful. You are not obliged to forgive, “be higher than this” and sacrifice your interests for the sake of others. Do so, only if you really want it. Andrea Matthews will help to understand - when you act at the behest of the soul, and when, out of false motives and fear, not to correspond to expectations. To be good for everyone, to take responsibility for the feelings of others and to constantly live under the oppression of guilt is a dead end. Only by realizing your own feelings and desires, you can understand the feelings and desires of another - and only then you will make him and yourself happier
However, if you look around, we will see enough people who, identifying themselves with virtue, fall into a trap of painful guilt, forcing them to make decisions to the detriment of their interests and prosperity. The main problem is that when the thoughts and behavior of a person are associated exclusively with the care of others, this leads to the disappearance of his ability to recognize the true intentions, feelings and motives of behavior - his own and others. Such a person is easier to deceive, use, manipulate them and abuse his trust. An attempt to become the embodiment of virtue strongly interferes with waking up and see what is really happening.
Good people are often bargaining with their sense of peace, believing that if they simply do something in the outside world, under the guidance of guilt, then they will subsequently find peace. But guilt only wants us to do what she says, she wants to appropriate us, make us her captives and manage our choice. You can find peace only if you give yourself time to listen to what is happening inside us. The purpose of the book is to support you on this path. "
Andrea Matthew
The first part of the book is devoted to how our need to be a good person is formed. You will learn how a family way can encourage a child to identify himself with virtue, as well as what feelings, emotions and behavior reinforce this identification. In the second part, beliefs transmitted from generation to generation and considered unshakable truths (debt above all, self -denial is the highest form of love and so on), although they can be erroneous depending on the situation. From the third part you will learn about how to bring the awakening of the true “I”, following their emotions, which they used to prefer to ignore or deny. The fourth part talks about the use of personal forces: intuition, insight and desire - to know oneself and the surrounding world. For centuries it has been believed that knowledge should come through teachers, parents, religious figures and other authoritative figures.
However, the forces directing you from the inside are able to provide powerful support in motion in the right direction, to the true I. It is contact with these forces and the decision to start living under their leadership that helps to get rid of the false self -identification of a “good person”. The fifth of the book will help to find a realistic view of what can be expected from the healing process. Having learned to distinguish lies from the truth, one can make this truth an integral part of your nature, thereby revealing the path to gaining forces inherent in the genuine “I”. And then you will gain inner peace, establish healthy boundaries in relations with others and will be guided in your actions with your own moral choice and is kind to people not out of guilt, but sincerely.
Why is the book it is worth reading
The purpose of the book “Let the Good” is to teach you to go beyond the framework of the limiting black and white ideas about the good and bad, which usually imply condemnation and search for guilty. You will begin to enjoy good deeds, instead of deaf irritation due to the fact that everyone goes to you.
For whom this book
“I have to do this, otherwise I will get out of guilt!”, “I broke and expressed everything, but then I felt so guilty that I took my words back”, “I was terribly tired, but they need me” . Sounds familiar? If you are so used to being a “good person” for everyone around that you almost do not realize your own needs, do not hear your true thoughts and desires, it"s time to stop. This book will support you on the way to gain the strength of your “I” - a complex and multifaceted, not exhausted to be a “good son”, “good friend” or “good wife”.
Why did you decide to publish
“let go of good - a book on an important topic that is not customary to discuss. And you need to be a brave person in order to say as the author: to be sincere is more important than it seems good and generous, to be honest with yourself and others more important than it seems noble and merciful. You are not obliged to forgive, “be higher than this” and sacrifice your interests for the sake of others. Do so, only if you really want it. Andrea Matthews will help to understand - when you act at the behest of the soul, and when, out of false motives and fear, not to correspond to expectations. To be good for everyone, to take responsibility for the feelings of others and to constantly live under the oppression of guilt is a dead end. Only by realizing your own feelings and desires, you can understand the feelings and desires of another - and only then you will make him and yourself happier
Cover:
Cover:Hard
Category:
- Category:Politics & Social Science
- Category:Psychology
- Category:Reference books
- Category:Motivation & Success
Publication language:
Publication Language:Russian
Age restrictions:
Age restrictions:16+
ISBN:
ISBN:978-5-9573-337-1
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