Stop blaming yourself. How to get guilty

Feeling guilt is a trap.
The trap that you fall into when you do not do the way you should act in the opinion of others. But who drove you into her: they or you?
Often we hear from our relatives: "We have done so much for you, and you ...", "I gave you the best years ..." or "I did not expect this from you ..." and we digging up in self -digging and reflection. Manipulation of guilt is a very common and effective trick.
But sometimes we ourselves hang this load and feel discomfort, mental pain for years, attract toxic relationships and illnesses into our lives. To change this, you need to meet with an internal negative, live it and forgive yourself. Recall that the reverse side of guilt is freedom. Freedom to be happy and successful. Freedom to let into life love for others and for yourself