Kind only to others. How to stop justifying those who devalue you and protect yourself from emotional blackmail.

Do you feel confusion and emptiness because of the hurtful and strange behavior of someone you have loved for many years and thought they loved you back? Are you exhausted and traumatized by a relationship with someone who everyone around likes and finds very 'sweet'? Are you wondering if the person next to you could be a narcissist, even though their description in the sources you've studied doesn't fully match them? This book will help you identify and neutralize the most dangerous and maddening type of abuser - the covert passive-aggressive narcissist. Thousands of enthusiastic reviews on Amazon, from both regular people and members of the professional community. Over 100 interviews with those who have 'survived' these relationships. And the honesty of the author - clinical psychologist Debbie Mirza, who herself knows what it's like to be confused in a relationship when you love deeply and sincerely. But life inside you seems to slowly drain away. When you turn into an exhausted version of yourself with low self-esteem and little self-confidence. 'Imagine you are dealing with someone (whether it's your partner, parent, or colleague) who everyone considers extremely sweet, smart, kind, and talented. However, you know the other side of this person: when they hurt you, devalue you, make you doubt yourself. Perhaps you are in a relationship with a covert narcissist. The book will undoubtedly be useful for those who have unfortunately already encountered such people, as well as for those who want to protect themselves from such encounters. The author breaks down the topic and provides clear criteria and recommendations on how to protect yourself and regain a sense of self-worth.' - Tatiana Smirnova, neurobiologist, andragog, author of several educational projects 'Debbie Mirza talks about how passive aggression and narcissism have become a real epidemic for our relationship culture. This book should be read and reread by clients and professionals alike, and it is an important contribution to the 'golden fund' of self-help books.' - Judy M. Sobchak, psychologist