Find yourself. How to realize your true desires and become happier.

- The well-known psychologist and coach Leonid Krol, with his characteristic insight and depth, describes the difficulties that each of us experiences. And subtly suggests ways out of the impasse. - 12 stories taken from the author's practice. 12 methods of solving eternal problems. - Magnificent style and simplicity of presentation. How to understand what I really want? Is there a way to avoid false goals imposed by society or parents? Can you trust yourself, follow your desires? And in general - what is "I"? A surname in a passport, a set of social roles, or something else? These questions will be answered by twelve stories from the practice of psychologist and business coach Leonid Krol. The author will tell you how to rely on feelings, imagination, experience, in order to navigate your own feelings and states, make decisions, and fully experience every moment of life. Quotes "It's like a matryoshka doll: in every moment of the question 'Who am I?' is hidden the question 'What do I want?', and in it - the question 'What is happening to me right now?'. You can answer the first questions only if you can answer the last one. You cannot 'find yourself' only once: the search and feeling of oneself is a constant internal process that happens largely beyond our consciousness. To tune this constant process is our task." "Quests are usually very detailed, concrete. You imagine around yourself the desired world, which is far from the usual, - and fill it with a multitude of details. It doesn't matter what relation they have to reality, you shouldn't think about that at all. For example, if you imagine a small European town, there will be tiled roofs, vegetables in the market, fair-haired children sitting in a stroller, and raindrops on a lamppost. Every little detail that comes to your mind mentally transports you to the desired circumstances and slightly changes your own motivation." "There are people whose meaning of existence is to help others. Such a lifestyle can satisfy and delight, but it can also deplete. At what point does the happiness of serving others turn into irritation, offense, and hatred towards those to whom you 'gave everything'? Psychotherapists working with representatives of helping professions know about this well. I know about this too." "We are all embedded in our evaluative society. Narcissistic mechanisms can be quite adaptive and manifest to varying degrees. And even if they dominate, they do not always completely take over a person. I rarely come across the infamous 'nightmarish ruthless narcissists' and very often - people like Julia, who are too ashamed of their imperfections, which prevents them from finding their true selves. This problem can and should be solved, not by trying to change the person entirely, remake them, but by easing the tension, providing new experiences and new ways of interacting with others and with oneself." For whom For those who are searching for themselves. About the author LEONID KROL - trainer, coach, consultant. Candidate of Medical Sciences, professor at the Higher School of Economics. Managing partner of "Incantico" (Italy). Managing partner of "Leonid Krol's Coaching and Training Workshop", director of the Institute of Group and Family Psychology and Psychotherapy. Among corporate clients: Sberbank, Central Bank of Russia, "Europlan", "Beeline", Gazprom.