Carrots and sticks. Metaphor of cruelty in relationships

"Whips and gingerbreads" are a deck about education, restrictions, punishment, suppression, feelings, resources and supports, about children"s and parental relationships and relationships with others. The wheel was created as a work tool, first of all, with children - Forms of ill-treatment in the family. We are talking about all forms of ill-treatment, including physical, psychological, sexual violence and disregard for the needs of the child. The deck enables the child to respond, bring out complex emotional experiences, find the points of the support for future life and resources to overcome traumatic events. Cruel treatment of children is not only a family. Children become victims in school, and in the yard, and in others (sometimes absolutely unpredictable) conditions. With the help of the Knut and Gingerbread decks, you can work with the emotional victim"s instability, satisfy the need to support, create a sense of security. The life experience of a child can do and its initiator of cruelty towards other children, to society as a whole. In this case, the deck provides an opportunity to explore with the child nature of such behavior, emotions and feelings of those around him. Thus, a set of cards is focused on the following areas of work with children: - Correctional work in the case of family, school and other types of violence, - Correctional work in the event of aggressive relations in the children"s team (both with victims of violence and with aggressors, injury initiators) .
Exercise options "Two views on one story" exercise is focused on working with adults and children who have been subjected to various types of ill-treatment. It is aimed at the formation of a dissociated (detached, from the side) view of the occurred. It can also be used in working with adults, parents to aware of the traumatic child experience. - Choose a map that looks like what happened to you. - Choose the map (s), which people would have chosen the people who were witnesses and participants of what is happening. - Choose a map that looks like a situation that happened between you and the person who offended you. - Choose a map that the person would choose for this situation. - Choose a map that looks like that you felt then. - And what do you think what map, reflecting your feelings, would he choose that person? - Choose a map that helped you cope with this situation. What do you think about this map said the one who offended you? And what card would he choose? "Three three" this exercise is suitable for individual and group work with adults: parents, teachers, etc. It is focused on working with value installations in upbringing. Choose the three most close to you, with whom you agree. Pick up the maps illustrating these statements. Choose three statements with which you disagree that cause you a protest. Pick up the maps illustrating these statements.
- What do you have to do with your life, your childhood phrases have these phrases, and pictures?
- Choose one phrase (from the most close to you and from your protest), which are most brightly represented in your vital experience. Tell us about them.
- Choose on one map (from the most close to you and from your protest) that your life experience brighter. Tell us about them. - What would you give to your children as a fence on the upbringing of their children (your grandchildren)?
The set includes:
- 80 cards with images (photos)
- 64 cards with words
- instruction