At the intersections of love and power

It is difficult to imagine modern life without competition, which largely determines our thinking, and therefore what we prioritize - rivalry or cooperation. The book of the clinical psychologist Elein Ainon considers this problem in its entirety and gives ways to solve.
Each person, according to the author, Elein Airon, instinctively chooses "Linking" and "Ranking". The first concept combines love, affection, support and cooperation. The second is associated with rivalry, the desire to possess power or status. Different parts of the cerebral cortex are responsible for the work of these two systems, the life scenario of a person depends on how their interaction is built.
Imagine a situation where someone lives for a long time with ideas about the unreliability of close relationships, rejects attachment as such, endlessly playing the same script. Such a person is unhappy himself and makes those who are dear to whom he is dear. It would seem that there is no faithful weapon against such destructive practice, because everything is controlled by the brain. And yet, "innate" does not mean "insurmountable, ”Airon is sure. It reinforces the importance of this thought with examples from her clinical practice, emphasizing that knowledge of innate features helps to better adapt to them.
What is the right path - to cooperate or compete? The answer to this question is determined by the system dominant in one case or another. You can say "I love you" to achieve power over someone, while “do what I say” can be an expression of love. A person can choose that it is most appropriate in certain circumstances proposed only when he distinguishes these two systems. And this is the first step towards overcoming difficulties. And the book is called to help you with this